Everthing happens for a reason

Those are 5 of the hardest words to hear. Most likely you've heard them when something bad has happened in your life. Your boyfriend breaks up with you, you lose a loved one, your car breaks down, the loan on your first home falls through, you or your spouse loses their job, etc. Those words are hard to swallow when you have gone through something painful. Sometimes they seem so nonchalant and to almost roll off someones tongue. We've all said it before and probably felt pretty good about ourselves after saying it. We feel like we've really helped out the person in need. As if we always have the right thing to say. But when you're on the receiving end it's a different story. You wonder if the person really understands the state you're in and just how discouraged you are. Not that you needed to hear something extremely profound, but "everything happens for a reason" doesn't exactly call for an immediate mood change.

My knee jerk reaction, as I'm sure most peoples knee jerk reaction, is to turn negative when I hit a bump in the road. I know better than to let my emotions get the best of me and think the worst but I still allow the worry and anger and fear set in. After 10 minutes or so I calm down and bring myself back to my "God has a plan" mantra. But those initial 10 minutes can be futile.

This is all stemming from Aaron's job situation. He has been working hard getting his resumes out and staying on top of any job openings for the last 3 months. He had one promising job but it was in Austin. And he has yet to hear a solid answer on it. You can imagine our excitement when last Thursday he received an email regarding a job interview at a different company here in Houston! It had been 3 months and he finally received a bite on something!! It was a happy day! Fast forward to this morning. The morning of said interview. He gets an email saying they will have to reschedule because the manager is not able to meet with him today due to jury duty. Is this for real? My automatic reaction was they must have found someone else and they are letting him down easy. They won't reschedule and the job search will have to continue! All negative, see? Now I do realize that jury duty is common and it does happen. It's just tough to accept another set back.

What's worse is I had told everyone, in my sheer excitement, about the interview (that wasn't) so now I would have to send word that it was not in fact happening today. Of course my emails, chats and calls weren't exuding positivity. I was down. But leave it to my momma to send me back a powerful email that really made me stop and think:

Wow...I am so sorry honey.  When I saw the subject on my phone I thought this can't be good news.  But it isn't bad either it's just a delay.  Another opportunity to trust God that He will not forsake you and He won't.  Jury duty happens  (Hey, I think we should make a tee shirt that says that!)  and it won't last forever.  Maybe the guy will get sent home today and he can schedule it for Thursday.  Think positive and thank God for another opportunity to trust in Him and remember God loves you and so does Robert Schuller!  Love you!!

She's good, right? Kind of corny with her t-shirt comment, but she's good :) "another opportunity to trust God that He will not forsake you" I love that she put it that way. I never see the bad things in my life as an opportunity to trust God. In fact, sometimes I get angry at the big guy. But today, I am going to think of this as an opportunity to continue putting my faith in God and trusting that He knows what path we need to be on. Maybe the interview will be rescheduled, maybe it won't. I have no control over it. But the one thing I can control is my faith.

Thank you all for sticking through the last few mopey posts. I am in fact a fun person and not everything is gloom and doom! I just wanted to share a piece of my life on here so in three years when I am sitting at home taking care of our babies and Aaron is at work at his amazing job with a great company I can look back on this and smile :)

Practically Perfect...  – (May 4, 2010 at 11:22 AM)  

You're mom is so wise :-) I've been through similar situations with my husband's job, wondering and waiting and then getting disappointed when opportunities don't pan out. I'll be thinking of you guys and hoping and praying that no matter what, you're able to trust in God's goodness (and that hopefully, His goodness means that Aaron gets a job soon!!!).

LawGirl  – (May 4, 2010 at 11:31 AM)  

Your mom is a genius! He will find something. I was unemployed for three months straight before I found a job, and it ended up being a great opportunity. Now that other pieces are starting to fall into place, I totally see why the timing happened the way it did, I know that you guys will be able to look back and say the same when all is said and done.

Good luck! I'm sure he'll be rescheduled.

Chelsea  – (May 4, 2010 at 2:11 PM)  

Mom's are always so smart! Chris went through this same thing, it was so discouraging when you wouldn't even hear back from 98% of the places you applied to! Hope things go your way soon!

mrs. darling  – (May 4, 2010 at 3:45 PM)  

i'm a new reader and wanted to encourage you. my husband just came off a year of being unemployed. his previous place of employment dissolved and thus a year of intense job searching began. i understand the urge to panic and jump to negativity, believe me. your mom is right...this is another opportunity for God to prove His faithfulness to you. no, knowing that does not make it easier...but it can be the calm in the midst of your storm.

i am so sorry you and your husband are having to walk through this. it's absolutely difficult...praying for you both.

meredith  – (May 4, 2010 at 4:39 PM)  

sometimes God uses our mommas to get His message across. your mom is so right now. i'm not going to sit here and tell you, "it's God's will" or "everything happens for a reason" because sometimes we just don't want to hear that. i'm in your same boat right now - not with job issues, but with health issues in my family.

it's so debilitatingly hard sometimes. i want to cry, i want to scream, i just want to be numb. while i was praying last night, i was reminded of one of God's truths that we often forget - His plan. a friend once told me this: "It's so hard when I think of God on such a shallow level... when I think that somehow His plan for me is FOR ME, instead of FOR Him. Like somehow, His whole goal is to please me, instead of bringing Him glory, even if it makes me feel miserable for a time." cling to the fact that God does indeed have a plan, a plan for Him and His glory.

know that i am praying for you. together, let's both use our situations as opportunities to trust in Him and rely on His provisions alone.

Lucky in Love  – (May 4, 2010 at 8:48 PM)  

Your mom is amazing...and so are you :) Thanks for posting this! Wishing you and your hubby all the luck in the world!

Naturally Caffeinated Family  – (May 4, 2010 at 9:51 PM)  

awww what a sweet and cute email from your mom! great post girl and i'm saying a prayer for you and Hubs right now! :) (we have been in some hefty "everything happens for a reason" situations and God definitely pulls us in, in a wonderful way during those times :)) hugs!

Lauren  – (May 5, 2010 at 9:07 PM)  

What would we do without our Moms?? They always know the right things to say at the right moments :)

Love ya friend!

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